Rhea Li

Sleep consultant, certified with Baby Sleep The Night

About Me


About Me About Me
 Hi, my name is Rhea Li

First and foremost, thank you for taking the time to read a little bit more about me and how I can help you.

As a proud mother of five lovely children, the youngest being two year old twins, I have experienced sleep problems first hand and know the pain and exhaustion of being sleep deprived. Like many parents, I simply thought my babies would outgrow it, but when our third child came along and started not sleeping, it all got too much, we needed some help to get us back on track again. Meeting Karen, the founder of BSTN, changed everything. Our sleep refusing daughter went from numerous wakes a night and not settling to sleeping 12 hours on night three, it was magical! I am so pleased we found Karen, the techniques she taught us for Amelia enabled us to instil good sleeping habits for the twins from the outset and they have been great sleepers ever since.

Passing through these stages with my own children has not only given me invaluable hands on experience, but also the ability to empathise and relate to the daily dilemmas of modern parenting. I am passionate about helping parents and their precious little ones get the rest and downtime they so desperately need to develop, learn and grow. My ethos as a Baby and Child Sleep Consultant is to help and support you in giving your little ones the skills to settle themselves to sleep independently, whether at bedtime, the middle of the night or nap time.

I have worked with children as an Early Years and Forest school teacher for 15 years, it has always been my passion and always will be. When I was handpicked to train with Karen Bramall, renowned sleep expert and founder of Baby Sleep The Night™, I jumped at the chance. I love working with families, helping them to implement a customised, step-by-step plan for their children, restoring the health and well-being of the whole family. With my guidance and support you too will have the tools and confidence to succeed on your own. I am passionate about helping them to implement a customised, step-by-step plan for their children. Restoring the health and well-being of the whole family is paramount.  With my guidance and support you too will have the tools and confidence to succeed on your own.

What I can do for you


A child sleep consultant’s job is to help, support and guide you in teaching your little one to go to sleep at bedtime by themselves and to get back to sleep on their own when they wake up in the night. Teaching your child to get a good nights sleep is the greatest gift you can give them.  It is that nourishing deep sleep that is so vital for every child.

Lots of families have reservations about having a sleep consultant in to work with them for all sorts of reasons: families and friends having different opinions, the internet having negative reviews on sleep training, the cost. The main reason I believe is that parents are worried their children are going to be left to cry and it is going to harm them long term. In fact, this is not the case at all and the plan is carried out in a gentle and calm way with you always there whilst they are learning those all important sleep skills.

I am a professional certified sleep consultant with lots of knowledge about the science of sleep, but ultimately you know your child the best. We will achieve the best outcome for your family because I will listen to you, work with you and respect your priorities and parenting style. I will never recommend you leave your child alone to cry.

Sleep is optimal to: LEARN, DISCOVER and GROW and RE-CHARGE, RE-ALIGN and RE-ENERGISE

If your current sleep situation isn’t bringing your family the rest it needs, book a free introductory call to discuss how things can be gently turned around. I can offer my services to customers in the UK and around the world.


What I can do for you

Packages


The Sleepy one: 3 months to 10 years: £245

This plan is the most popular child sleep package and is suitable for all children, any age. It is a comprehensive two week plan of support taking into account your child, their needs and your family’s needs.

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Newborns: 0-3 months: £125

With this package, you will learn everything you need to teach your baby to be an independent sleeper right from the beginning. It is a fantastic gift package for parents-to-be too.

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The refresher: £95

Another popular option for parents who have worked with me before and are looking for a refresher.

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The overnighter: 3 months-8 years: £650

This package is for parents who would like my support and guidance in implementing the first night of the programme. I will be with you all the way and support with the bedtime routine and night wakings.

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Optional Extras

For parents who would like a little more support.

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A word about crying....!


People always ask me,  will I have to let my baby ‘cry it out’. Here are my thoughts on this.

Let me reassure you that I’m not an advocate of controlled crying, ‘shut the door and leave them’ methods. I’m not saying they don’t work if they are executed correctly, they do. However, I just think they are too tough on all involved. What I will say though is I like things to be the same every night. Making big changes to anyone’s sleep environment will almost always be met with some kind of protest. With a child, their protest normally involves at least a few tears. So, I can’t promise you there will be no crying. In fact, with almost all of the families I have helped, there has been at least some.

I also completely understand that no one likes the idea of hearing their child cry. I myself am a mother of five and have been in your shoes. The Baby Sleep the Night™ philosophy does not rely on asking you to leave your child alone to cry for extended periods.

The reason that these methods are so effective is that they let you develop a planned way of getting your baby, toddler, or child to sleep that you feel comfortable with. This is completely based on what you already know about your child.

A word about crying....!

Testimonials


 We worked with Rhea over a couple of weeks to establish better sleep patterns for our twin boys. All I can say is AMAZING!! We were in a position where our little ones were difficult to get to sleep at any time, and one in particular was waking every half hour in the evening and several times at night, needing to be rocked to sleep for 20 mins minimum at a time and wanting feeds in the night. We need help and our fairy godmother arrived - just before I completely lost the plot! Rhea listened to our situation and asked questions to find out the information she needed to create a bespoke plan for us. She then talked us through the plan and enabled us to ask questions to ensure we understood. She was then there for us over the following days, providing support via WhatsApp and follow up calls to ensure we felt comfortable with what we were doing and stayed on track. I’m not going to say it was an easy first night - but she had prepared us for that - and so we felt we were able to take things in our stride. We couldn’t believe it when they slept through the first night and we woke in the morning a little confused about whether it was the middle of the night or not! Each of the steps we have followed have been straight forward and for us have gone relatively smoothly and we are so grateful for her support in this. I would not hesitate to recommend Rhea to you. She is friendly, thoughtful, professional and with five children of her own (including twins) she is more than capable of empathising with the wits’ end feeling that sleep deprivation brings. If you have got to the end of this testimonial and aren’t convinced I would just say, give her a call - the first 15 minute consultation is free. What have you got to loose? And you are sure to gain back precious hours of sleep and your sanity if you go ahead. For the avoidance of doubt, I’d also say that I am not a friend of Rhea’s, nor related to her in any way. We did not know each other prior to working together. I’ve just written this testimonial because I want people to be helped like we were helped. Good luck!"

Ali, Max and Owen 9 months- Copy
     

 Isabella was always a great sleeper, thumb sucker and loves her muzzy! She self settled like a dream. Although she had never been one to sleep through the night, would always wake for a feed. At 12 months things took a turn and it got harder to get her to bed and keep her there! over the period of a year we went from staying in her room for over an hour and sometimes 2, to car drives to get her to sleep to eventually just putting her to bed in our bed! It worked for a period of time, she went straight off in our bed and it was easy but we knew it couldn't last. We took the plunge of getting her a single bed when she was about 2, she took to it really well which we were pleased with but getting her to sleep was still a struggle with one of us staying in there until she fell asleep. And she was still waking several times until we would put her in our bed! And here wonderful Rhea steps in! She provided a fantastic consultation that made us feel really at ease and comfortable with her and the steps forward. She provided comfort to our concerns and to our amazement Isabella responded so well. It was a tough first week but we pulled through it and Rhea supported us everyday. Within a week we were able to say goodnight and leave the room with no problems! Within 2 weeks we were doing this and downstairs getting on with our evening and she was sleeping through. We can't recommend Rhea enough, her service is utterly life changing and has given Isabella the gift of a good night's sleep and independence! Thank you!"

Anika, Rob and Isabella, 2.5 yrs
     

 "Evelyn has been an adequate sleeper since a baby but had rarely slept through the night. We used online research and informal advice to establish good sleep habits and to start weaning her from milk, it was working reasonably well until Evelyn was unwell for a week aged one year. Following this, she regressed to the sleeping habits of a new born.....2-3 hourly wakes, only settling with a bottle or in our arms, she was unhappy during the day due to her broken sleep. At 6 months pregnant with our second child, this became untenable for my husband and I and we became so sleep deprived we were struggling to function and at a loss as to how to fix things. Until we met Rhea, AKA our saviour! Rhea devised an individualised plan which suited our parenting style and Evelyn was sleeping through the night, weaned from milk and bottles and a much happier little girl in just 24 hours!!! Rhea was kind, patient, accessible, confident and very knowledgeable. This gave us the confidence that we were doing the best for our little one which allowed us to stick to the plan and succeed. Rhea has changed our lives and given us our happy, content little girl back. Our only regret is that we didn't do this sooner!""

Laura and Evie 13 months
     

 I wish I had started this months ago when Rhea was first recommended to me. I kept putting it off because my first baby was and still is a brilliant sleeper and I assumed eventually my 14 month old twins would catch on. Rhea is kind, knowledgeable, extremely supportive and put all my concerns regarding sleep training to bed (excuse the pun!). It wasn't nearly as hard as I thought it would be. Being able to get a full nights sleep after all this time has transformed family life. Importantly my babies are happy, rested and sleeping like babies."

Tara, Luke and Ezra 14 months
     

 We contacted Rhea having had a very difficult 6 month period of sleeping with our second child, Lucas. Having started life as brilliant sleeper, at 18 months old he deteriorated as we slipped into bad habits and the Christmas break was ruined by him waking multiple times each night, not falling asleep unless he was laying on one of us, keeping us awake by flapping around in our bed etc. etc. After a simple and friendly briefing from Rhea, we embarked on her sleep programme, and after only 3 nights Lucas was happily going into his cot wide awake and sleeping there all night, waking only occasionally. By night 7 or 8 he had started sleeping through from 730pm to 630am. It’s a genuine transformation, giving Lucas more energy each day, and for us it means we get our evenings back and a full nights sleep. Thank you Rhea!"

Rebecca and lucas, 20 months

 We couldn't be happier with the amazing results Rhea helped us achieve, I kick myself that I didn't sort this sooner! A happier daughter/parents/household as a result. Great support from Rhea along the way and a tailored, gentle personalised plan to suit us. Worked an absolute treat and in a very short time span, wouldn't hesitate to recommend."

Charlotte and Hattie, 2.5 yrs
     

 Our son William hadn’t slept more than 4 hours in a row when I met Rhea. I’d been living the last 14 months in a fog of night feeds and broken sleep and I hadn’t realised just how exhausted I was. Rhea listened to us, and came up with a tailored plan to suit us and our family and I can honestly say she has changed our lives. After over a year of broken sleep our little boy started sleeping for 12 hours every night, after just 2 days of sticking to her plan. I still can’t believe it! Rhea is calm and caring, and will go above and beyond to make sure that the whole family feel comfortable with the plan. She’s been a constant support to me over the last few weeks and I don’t know what I’ll do without her now! I can highly recommend her to anyone who’s having sleep difficulties with their children. She is literally worth her weight in gold! Thank you so so much Rhea, you are WONDERFUL!"

Adam, Sarah, Grace and William
     

F.A.Q


How much sleep does my child need?

A Lot! Many parents are surprised to learn that children
need anywhere between 12 and 18 hours of sleep per day,
depending on the age of your child. Here are some specific
guidelines for different age groups:

}} 0-3 months of age: 17-19 hours per day
}} 3-6 months of age: about 15-16hours per day
}} 6-12 months of age: about 14-15 hours per day
}} 12 months of age and up: 13-14 hours per day

A good nights sleep gives children the energy they need to
wake up each morning feeling happy, refreshed and ready
to learn,

Why does my newborn want to sleep all day.....and stay up all night?

A common complaint with new parents is that their child
seems to be very sleepy during the day and very active at 
night - just the opposite of most adults!

Firstly, understand that this is quite natural during the first
4-6 weeks, so try to make the best of it. When possible, 
sleep when your baby is sleeping. (You’ll need the energy!) 
A good way to help encourage your child to make the 
transition to “normal” waking hours is by making sure that 
you make a clear distinction between daytime and night. 
This means keeping the house brighter and more active 
during the day, and darker and quieter at night. (Avoid the 
temptation to get up and start watching TV or doing chores 
in the middle of the night.) 

When should my baby be sleeping through the night?

It depends. Every child is different, but assuming that your
baby is healthy, you can expect 12 hours of solid
night time sleep between the ages of 3 and 6 months.
If your child is 6 months of age or older and still not
sleeping through the night, there are some simple steps
you can take to quickly improve the length of your child’s
sleep.

How can I tell when my child is getting tired?

One of the most common mistakes parents make is
waiting until their baby is overtired before putting the 
baby to bed. (This actually makes falling asleep much 
more difficult for your little one.)

You can tell when your baby is starting to get tired by
the following signs: 
}} Rubbing eyes 
}} Arching back 
}} Pulling ears 
}} Red-rimmed eyes 
}} Yawning (this is one of the LAST signs)

When you notice your baby starting to show these signs, it’s either naptime or bedtime. Getting your baby into bed before over tiredness sets in will make things much easier for everyone.

How can I get my baby to sleep longer?

Your baby will sleep for longer stretches once they have
learnt the skills needed to fall asleep independently.
This simply means that your child must be able to get to
sleep without any help from you.

A “sleep cycle” lasts about 45 minutes in children. This means that they wake up (very briefly) every 45 minutes or so. In most adults (and children who can fall asleep independently), these “wake-ups” are so brief that we aren’t even aware of them. However, if a child relies on a parent in order to fall asleep (if that child is rocked or nursed to sleep, for example), then that child will quite often need to be rocked or nursed back to sleep every time they wake.

How many naps should my child be taking during the day?

It depends on the age of your child. Of course, every child
is different, but here are some good guidelines:

}} Age 0-3 months: 4 or 5 naps per day
}} Age 3-6 months: 3 naps per day 
}} Age 6-14 months: 2 naps per day 
}} Age 14 months - 2.5 years: 1 nap per day

Note that each nap should last somewhere between 1 and 3 hours.

Contact


  • Andover, England, United Kingdom